Sex Act Of The Week – Coming Soon
We are borrowing this idea from another blog we have seen, but we think it will be fun. Our goal here is to introduce a new sex position, act, or something to spice up our love lives and yall’s.
So Cindy and I will be consulting with our other contributors and coming up with something new to do each week.
What’s the point of doing this?
So many people miss out on really enjoying sex. We try to squeeze it in to a tight schedule and get stuck in routines. Sex was never meant to be a routine. Sex is meant to be fun, exciting, intimate, and every other word BUT mundane and routine.
So be looking (very) soon for our first Sex Act Of The Week.
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Do 80% Of Women Really Want This?
I ran across an article on Yahoo!’s Australian Men’s Health site called “Great Sex Advice – Realise Her Fantasy.” To say the least, this article surprised me a bit.
So here’s my question ladies: Is this true (from the article):
1. Show time
80% want to touch themselves while you watch (and learn)The turn-on
“The fast that she’s turning you on while making herself orgasm makes her feel sexy,” explains sexologist Dr Sandor Gardos.
Now, I’m the FIRST to admit that when Cindy does this for me, it is a HUGE turn-on. And I cannot explain why, but there is something erotic, alluring, fascinating, you name it, about watching a woman pleasure herself.
But….Cindy doesn’t do it often. I don’t know why, and I really don’t press the issue a lot (but honey, if you’re reading this….just kidding!). When she has done it, though, my hormones go into major overdrive. I really want to get down to business, but enjoy watching her do it too much to interrupt.
Based on my experience, I would think 80% would be WAY too high. Ladies, is this really a fantasy of yours? Sound off in our comments section.
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The Single Biggest Sex Advice That Men Will Ever Read
Guys, I’m about to share a “secret” with you that I will guarantee will improve your sex life with your partner. I consider this the building block of all sex advice for men that could ever be distributed.
And once you find out what it is, you’ll either thank me or want to slap me!
So here it is, my biggest piece of sex advice for men:
Exercise and eat right!
Some secret, huh? After all, doctors, the media, and possibly your spouse have been telling you this for ages. But for some reason, men (and women) ignore this easy piece of advice. But if you follow it, you will have better sex and more of it.
Now, what I’m about to say I say with a disclaimer: I’m not a doctor. I’m basing everything I write from here down on how my body feels and common sense. But I’m willing to bet if you take this to your doctor, they will agree….for the most part.
1. Eat Right
Much like a high performance car, your body is only as good as the fuel you put into it. If you continually put crap into it, you’ll feel like crap and eventually you’ll start to look the part too.
Eating right may also help decrease the risks for cardiovascular disease. I’ll explain more about why this is important here in a minute.
So what do I mean by “eat right?” For starters, eat managable portions. I enjoy watching those monster eats show as much as everyone…you know, the one where the burger could feed a small village in Africa? But the bottom line is overeating like that will make you feel sluggish which will effect performance when it matters.
Also, you don’t have to give up your favorite foods. What you do have to give up is eating junk for every meal. If you tend to eat fast food a lot, do some research into healthier options. Find ways to eat out but not consume 50% of your calories in fat grams and carbs that will do nothing for you.
You don’t have to eat like a rabbit to eat well, either. Cindy and I have found a lot of recipes that we have altered to be healthier for both of us. One of our favorites is chicken fajitas. We make our own seasoning (to control salt content), we use EVOO (extra virgin olive oil for those who do not follow cooking much), lean chicken cuts such as chicken breast tenderloins, and fresh veggies. For toppings, it is 2% cheese, low fat sour cream, homemade salsa, and whatever tortillas we care to try. When I’m eating real healthy, its 100% wheat flour tortillas. Normal flour tortillas are not too bad, but not the best for you.
2. Exercise
This is a bit of common sense. I am amazed by how few guys get quality exercise. My family is notoriously overweight, and I got to that point too. I found myself fat and unattractive, and although Cindy never admitted it (the loving, sweet wife that she is), I know she had to be a bit disgusted by my gut as well.
So along with eating healthy, I started engaging in rather vigorous exercise. And the inches are melting away.
I also look at it this way: We like our women to look good. We are very visual creatures, for the most part, and we want our women to look good. Our women like the same in return. So to not be hypocritical and to show that we care about what they think, we should do our part to improve our bodies.
But outside of physical appearance and attraction, we all need to be aware of the big reason why its good to exercise: Cardiovascular health.
Think about your penis: When you get aroused, it fills with blood. If your cardiovascular system is not up to par, it doesn’t fill up as well or as quickly. One of the largest reasons for erectile dysfunction is from obesity and cardiovascular health.
So its your choice: A raging hard erection to please your woman (or letting your woman please you, whichever the case may be), or problems that will lead to issues with intimacy. Its your choice guys.
I came to this conclusion earlier this year while working on making our sex life better. I knew that if I continued to be obese and did not do something about it, eventually it would quit working the way I wanted it to. And quite frankly, I love sex way too much to allow that to happen. I know Cindy would be bummed as well as she’d rather have the real thing most times instead of oral sex or vibrators.
Eat right and exercise….fairly simple, right?
Well, it takes a mental toughness to do it. Find time to do it, and make it a point to eat right. Your sex life will improve.
And if you need suggestions, feel free to comment. I’ll share some of what I do.
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A Great Night!
Ladies, I have to share with you about the great night Jeff and I had the other night.
First off, we started out in our jacuzzi tub. Jeff washed and massaged my head and temples. This was so relaxing and felt soooo good. He also massaged my neck and shoulders. He knew what he was doing. Jeff was taking care of me. He knew I had a long day with the girls and house work. So, he wanted to relax me and get me in the mood.
After our nice and relaxing bath together. We moved to the bedroom. There he decided to treat me. (By this I mean giving me oral sex). The way he treated me was the best I had ever had. He had read an ebook called “Lick By Lick” and learned some techniques.
Jeff has been so wonderful lateley. He is always looking for ways to make me feel good about myself and make sure I am being pleasured as well. He is setting high standards in our relationship in more than one way. I really need to pick up my A-game and do the same for him.
Have your partner check out this ebook. I promise you will not be disappointed if he does. Then let me know what you think.
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Performing Cunnilingus – A Great Oral Sex Guide For Men: “Lick By Lick”
Guys, the #1 way to give your women a great orgasm is usually through cunnilingus, or oral sex.
It’s just the way it is.
Sure, there are a lot of other methods which will get a woman to peak, but hands down the best way I have found is by pleasuring her orally. Knowing this, I figured Cindy was worth enough to me to learn what I could to perform it better.
So I picked up this eBook online: Lick By Lick.
I really wasn’t sure what I was going to learn in it. I thought I knew enough about going down on her that there was not much room for improvement. But I learned a lot from this book, as well as had a lot of what I already knew reinforced.
I learned a couple of techniques even that were fun for me to do and, in a way, make it into a game for me to see just how much pleasure I could give Cindy. And when all was said and done, I have not seen her have an orgasm like that in quite some time….but she’ll write more about it from her experience, including the lead into the night later.
The best thing about purchasing the “Lick By Lick” eBook are the bonuses we got with it. We got a set of sexy coupons which we both are going to be playing with soon, as well as other eBooks to help us become better in and out of the bedroom.
So men, I highly recommend checking out this product. After the other night, Cindy is already promising me more, and I bet your woman will too!
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Communicating Your Hot Buttons And Desires – A “Getting To Know You” Game We Played
Cindy and Jeff here. We wanted to write this post together based on a little game we played the other night. I actually referred to it as a “pop quiz” to Jeff, but he still insist it is a game.
Jeff came up with a few questions and had both of us write our responses. We wanted to share with you the questions and what we learned about each other. We think we will probably sound like a lot of other couples, so maybe this will be something good for you to do too.
Here are the questions:
1. Top 5 Things You Do That Make Me Want You (non-sexual)
2. Top 5 Things You Could Do To Get Me Sexually Excited (”fantasy” list)
3. Top 5 Things I Wish You Did Better In Bed
And after answering these three and reading each others answers, there was one question to answer after this:
4. Top 5 Things I Want To Do For You In The Next Few Months
When we discussed the first three, we did not go into detail about each answer. Jeff just wanted to know if there was anything he wrote that surprised me (Jeff says – Likewise, I told Cindy what I thought she wrote or didn’t write that surprised me a bit).
As we expected, we somewhat knew what each other wanted. In fact, I “messed up” and answered the last question before I was supposed to. It was funny because I knew what I wanted to do for him before I even read his responses, and they lined up with what he wrote.
We talked through it overall and learned we are pretty normal.
As the woman, I preferred the nurturing and pampering.
As the man, Jeff preferred the more visual and sexual.
But with the difficulty we have had in the past about always being upfront about what we liked and did not like, this was something we thought we would do and share to show one way of opening up communication in our relationship and in your relationship too.
(Jeff here – I’m proud of Cindy for doing this with me. In the past, she would have just rolled her eyes. But tonight she sat down with me, wrote out as much as she could, and actually talked to me. Getting to know more about what she goes through as a stay-at-home mom and how she feels at night, I started asking her different things I could do that would turn her on based on her responses. I think I have some good ideas, and I am sure we will write about them later).
Overall, I think answering and talking about these things helped us in learning more about each other. I learned somethings tonight that I can do for/to Jeff to push his hot buttons. Also, by doing this it is helping me be more open about my wants.
Try a game like this sometime with your lover.
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Great Foreplay Tips and Advice For Women
Ladies, are you looking for ways to improve foreplay with your men. Well, I read an article the other day and thought I would share it with you. To me there was some great suggestion to helping you make your man happy. There were several that I am going to try with Jeff at some point.
One thing I liked about this article is most of the suggestions did not have to be done in the bedroom. Some of ideas were things that will let your man know that your are interested in him and things that will make him feel good.
Some of the tips that could help in your relationship are:
- Sending him a text and letting him know what you are wanting to do with him that night.
- Giving him a gift certificate to Victoria Secret and letting him pick out whatever he wants for me.
- Let him watch me undress. I know that sounds simple but we will see how that works.
Here is the article so you can figure out what would work best in your relationship.
Redbook’s Foreplay Tips And Techniques
By doing some of these things can really help your man know that you are thinking about him and want him to be thinking about what will happen the next time you see him.
Pick a few of these tips and let me know what you think and if they worked in your relationship.
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SexAdviceForCouples.com Welcomes Ron And Selena To Our Contributing Staff
I’d like to welcome Ron and Selena to our contributing authors here at SexAdviceForCouples.com.
When we started putting together our ideas for the blog, Cindy and I’s knowledge and experience would not hit everyone. Experience comes from facing different challenges and overcoming them.
We also knew that our style of sex, intimacy, and passion were not what would click with all of our readers.
With that in mind, we talked to our good friends Ron and Selena about joining with us in this venture and contributing their experiences with us. We have known this couple for many years and have a lot of positive things to say about them and how their relationship is. We are looking forward to them sharing their experience and sex advice with everyone, and we all hope you all gain something from their experience as well.
I’m sure they will be writing welcome post(s) soon.
Jeff
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Practical Sex Advice For Couples – Two Secrets For Keeping Passion And Fire In Your Marriage, Relationship, And Sex Life
Cindy stole some of my thunder with this post, but I want to share something that both of us agree has tremendously helped our relationship, our passion, and our sex life, as well as has reduced tensions, made us happier and more playful in our marriage and in how we interact with each other.
If you these two things and put effort into it, we know you will see more spark between you and your spouse or significant other.
And when I tell you these things, you’ll probably think “Why didn’t I think of that?”. But here goes:
#1 Practical Sex Advice For Couples – Start And End Your Day Together 
There is something special about spending the early morning with Cindy and then making sure we go to bed together. We put in the effort to be together as soon as both of us are awake, and we rarely go to bed without the other one.
Obviously there are some circumstances that make this more difficult, such as spouses that work different shifts.
Here are some things we do and some other things that may help get your creative (and other) juices flowing in how to make this happen:
- If you shower in the morning, shower with your spouse. If you don’t shower in the morning, but your spouse does, shower with them anyways.
- Ditto for the evening.
- Not every night is a sex night, not even in our household. But the few nights a week that are not, we still end our day together. Usually we will give each other massages, watch television to unwind the day, or just hold each other. But we make sure we have physical contact each night.
Yes, this may take time and effort. But if you love your spouse, want them to be fulfilled (men, especially pay attention here), and want to have some great sensual moments, make sure to do this.
Cindy and I shower together more mornings than not. Its a sensual moment that we spend together each morning.
I sometimes work until late in the evening, but she tries to stay awake for me. She may already be in bed, but she stays awake.
And here is the second, most powerful of the tips, in my opinion:
#2 Practical Sex Advice For Couples – Kiss Passionately Every Day
I read an article that popped up on Yahoo! many months ago that talked about kissing every day. The article did not just say a peck, though. It said that couples should kiss for at least 10 seconds each kiss once a day.
When I told her this, she kind of chuckled. And the first few times we tried to do this, it was more of a game and a joke and nothing serious….so we did not keep it going.
But here recently, somewhat subconsciously, we started doing it again. In fact, when we shower in the morning, we kiss multiple times very passionately, most times for more than 10 seconds. Of course, being in the shower together and kissing for that long will get a response out of me (and it will her at night), so sometimes I go through the day excited about getting home, getting the kids to bed, and getting some time alone with her.
Since we have started doing this, we have noticed a lot of things about our relationship:
We fight less.
We have less tension no matter the situation.
We tend to be more playful during the day.
We tend to kiss more during the day, whenever we see each other.
We have had more sex. A LOT more sex.
We smile more.
We feel less stressed.
All of these things build on each other. We owe it all to kissing and being passionate first thing in the morning and last thing in the evening.
So there are two practical sex advice tips for you and your spouse. We have noticed tremendous change in our lives from doing it, and we hope you will too!
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Cindy Here!
Hey Everyone, this is Cindy.
As you already know I am happily married to Jeff. We have been together for 12 years and married almost 8 years. We have been through a lot together in and out of the bedroom. I will be sharing my side of our relationship. Not that it is much different than Jeffs’ but we do see things differently.
First, I have to admit I am not as comfortable discussing how I feel about sex as Jeff. That is something I will have to overcome. I do know what I like and when I find something I like and enjoy I tend to want to keep doing it. Jeff is the exact opposite and likes to try new things.
I do enjoy going on trips with Jeff (leaving the kids behind). It is fun to have some real adult time. On these trips we also make it a point to really enjoy each other. I am pretty sure we have had sex in every state we have visited.
Something we have started doing recently is showering together most mornings. We are starting our day out together. I don’t enjoy having sex or anything in the shower but I do sometimes treat Jeff. The one thing I enjoy showering together is kissing and holding under the water.
Before we were married we kissed passionately all the time. However, after 3 kids and busy schedules we had stopped kissing like this throughout the day. Since being back from vacation we have started kissing passionately multiple times a day. I have noticed that it is not sexual in any way but it has help our relationship greatly. We have not been as stressed, argued and it has helped in the bedroom at night. I think Jeff will be discussing the area of kissing shortly and how it can help your relationship with your partner.
I look forward to posting and hearing what you have to say!
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