It is finally slowing down just to be busy again really soon. 

Most of you know that Valentine’s Day is coming up in a couple of weeks.  The is the LOVE holiday!!  You know where everyone is suppose to be in love!  Well, I think Jeff and I are more in Love then what we have been in a long time.  Our relationship has been wonderful in the bedroom and out of the bedroom. 

We usually don’t really do anything special for Valentine’s Day but this year we are going out of town and spending the night away with no kids.  I know this may not seem much to you all but we get 2 nights with no kids, no distractions and each other to ourselves. 

If you are looking for something special to do for your special someone I will be posting some things this week that are free or at a low cost.  Remember you don’t have to spend $$ to make that someone special in your life feel special. 

I will also give some ideas if you do want to spend some money on your someone special. 

I am excited about Valentine’s day and hope everyone has a romantic day/evening planned.  Check back later this week for my ideas and ways to make your Valentine’s Day special!

But now that we are starting a new year and new times together, we are working on several things to not only spice up the bedroom for us but for others as well.

We have talked about a few things, and here is a “sneak peak” at a few things we are going to talk about in the coming weeks:

1.  A 7 days of sex challenge….seem easy, right?

2.  An experiment to find new turn-ons for your spouse.

3.  A commitment to multiple nights of multiple orgasms.

I will also be writing some about supplements and exercises to help make sex better for men (well, it will make the women feel good, too).

Plus, we’ll return to the Sex Act of the Week.

So stay tuned in the coming days and weeks for some fun ideas, challenges, and more.

But we wanted to share our Sex Act Of The Week with you:  Shaving each other.

This is a very intimate act that requires quite a bit of trust and communication about each others’ preferences.  But don’t deny your partner the opportunity to shave you however they want, though.  Remember, part of what makes great moments with each other is being a bit submissive.  It’s just hair and it will grow back.

Cindy and I did this for the first time the other night.  We drew a nice jacuzzi bath, relaxed for a bit, and then got to work.  It was quite an experience for both of us, although it can be a bit nerve racking shaving your partner.  Overall, we enjoyed it quite a bit….so much so, we are about to do it again tonight!

Check back this weekend for our 4th Sex Act Of The Week.

These costumes could be a treat for your husband since men are visually excited. They can range from cute to really sexy, depending on what you are looking for.

Cindy suggested the “Blow job University Cheerleader” if you are planning a special night for your husband. He could do a little “cheering you on”, himself.

Dirty Cop Costume

I, on the other hand, wouldn’t  mind taking a little more stern approach.  Sometimes I like to really be in charge and take the whip in my hands, or the handcuffs in this matter. The “Dirty Cop Costume” would allow you to be in the driver’s seat and take control of your husband. You wouldn’t want to be too rough, just enough to let him know you are serious about what’s about to happen.

Office Tramp Cosutme

Jeff and Cindy sometimes call having sex, having a “business meeting”. We have found a great costume that brings a new meaning to a “business meeting”.  The “Office Tramp” costume could end up on the kitchen table instead of a conference table.  Objections might not be raised at this meeting, but something else might!

Well rope ‘em up, tie ‘em down, poke him, & prod him.  Ride that cowboy ladies because here is a costume that will bring the cowgirl out in you. This sexy “Wild Cowgirl” could really get a loud “Yee haw” out of your husband.

This is just one of many ways to spice it up in the bedroom. Using costumes and role play can bring out new sides of both you and your husband.  Even larger women can have fun with this. Just feel comfortable with yourself and know that your husband is attracted to you and loves you and your body. Cindy and I hope you give this a try and let us know how it goes.

If you have any other ideas feel free to share them with us. We look forward to getting your feedback on this experience.

Selena & Cindy

I had to pick up a prescription today at a Wal-Mart and had a slight wait while they ran my insurance card.  Their pharmacy faces the shelves that have their condoms, lubes, and more.

And interesting enough, they have somethings I would classify as sex toys.  Wal-Mart has an erotic side….?

Looking over what they had in this store, they had flavored lubes, vibrating enhancement rings, and a “personal massager” that was very non-phallic looking.

But I found this interesting and thought I would pass it on.  I believe 4 of the vibrating rings was less than $5.  So if you are looking for a bit of extra spice, look at picking some up.

Why just kissing and not a position, an oral sex act, or anything else?

We realize that great sex comes from great passion.  Great passion does not start in the bedroom (necessarily) but starts well before you get between the sheets.

I wrote here about passionate kissing as well as starting your day together….kissing is where the passion starts.  If you kiss passionately every day, your intimate time together will be better.

So here are some ideas for kissing:

• Kiss naked.  Don’t touch each other other than an embrace.
• Watch a movie/sporting event or whatever you enjoy together.  During the commercials, get hot and heavy with your kissing, but force yourselves to stop when the show comes back on.
• If you can shower or bathe together, this is another great place to simply embrace and kiss.
• Start your day and end your day with a long, passionate kiss.

These are just a few ideas on this week’s Sex Act Of The Week – Passionate Kissing.

You come home (or both come home) from a long day at work.  If your spouse stays at home with the kids, you pitch in to help him/her, taking time with the kids and finding out how their day was.  You cook supper, eat, clean up dishes, do a bit of housework, get your kids ready for bed, get them to bed, and then you finally have alone time…

…and you’re exhausted!

Seems like an all to familiar scenario in our house and I am sure many others.

I work full-time hours, Cindy is a stay-at-home mom and keeps another kid for extra income.  All of the kids, including ours, are young, so her day is full of assisting them as well as doing work around the house.

My day is full of my job and my nights, until the kids go to bed, is usually full with them.

So when we finally go to bed, love making is usually a shortened affair.

Too short sometimes.

Cindy is too nice sometimes and just worries about making sure I have an orgasm, and that is it.  Being the horny husband I am, I try to do her as well, but sometimes she would just rather not.

And I appreciate the gesture, but its just not as fun.

So as I was pondering what the problem was, I came to one simple conclusion:  We, and many others, simply do not take enough time for each other when having sex.  So the easy answer to this is a multiple orgasm night.

Guys are blessed with a built-in timer.  Some guys have shorter timers than others, but none of us can have orgasms that back-to-back.  We are also great at not lasting as long as our women typically.  So to make sure both women and men get more enjoyment and spend more time in the art of love making, I thought it would be a good idea to take one night multiple times a month and work towards both partners having more than one orgasm.

My thought?

It helps guys to not be one-and-done but rather focus on really pleasing their wives.

And it helps women to make sure their sexual needs are met.

Cindy and I have been talking about this and will be making our multi-orgasmic nights fairly regularly (once we all get over the sickness that is floating around our community and friends).  I view it as a personal challenge to give her two great orgasms on these nights.

So here we go….you can use our Sex Act Of The Week as a starting point to finding positions or foreplay and orgasms, or you can just do your own thing.  The key is to spend more time being sexual with each other and have fun, make memories, and make sure you meet the others needs….at least twice!

Fairly self explanatory on how this goes, but as we were discussing, we all came up with some great suggestions to make this very sensual, sexy, and a lot of fun:

• Turn off the TV!  But if you have a way for music to play, play the music.
• If you have a blindfold, use it.  It will heighten sensitivity.
• Some prefer the use of lotions, some don’t.  Find out what your parter wants and do that.
• This gives you the opportunity to really focus on your partner’s erogenous zones other than their genitals.
• Don’t be afraid to kiss your parnter on different areas of his or her body while doing this.
• And definitely don’t be afraid to tease your partner.  Brush your hands against their genitals to build anticipation and excitement!

For some females an orgasm can be achieved through massage.  So as your man is massaging you, think about sex.  Think about how you feel sexually, how it feels when your man performs oral sex or intercourse while getting rubbed.  If something feels particular good and gives you some sexual excitement, let your man know!

Remember, the point of our Sex Acts Of The Week are meant to highten intimacy.  We choose these based on things we individually like, thinks we’d like to try, and things we think would push us sexually.  All of us want to take our sex lives to another level and encourage others to do the same.

For each week, we suggest performing the act at least twice.  We plan on writing about our experiences and want you to share yours with us.  We are all looking forward to reading your comments.

Ron & Selena and Jeff & Cindy

My wife and I have grown up together, but it wasn’t until our senior year in high school that we would come back together.  We have been married for almost 6 years.  Throughout those 6 years, we have had our ups and downs as married couples do.  Majority of our disagreements comes from not being as intimate as when we were first married.  And with the disagreements, came the tension of not being as intimate.  Also another factor that has beena hendering factor has been kids, work, and everyday stress.  We have also had house guests who have made it harder to try new ideas.

We aren’t experts, just couples that have struggled with being intimate on a daily basis.  We know that there are more people out there like us who have had those type of struggles.  We hope to help others like us to achieve the type of intimacy  that they so desire.  We might not have all of the answers, but we will try to answer them to the best of our knowledge.  We look forward to working with everyone who might need us.

As you already know, Ron and I are married, with children, but we are not the Bundy’s.  I would say we have a “not so normal marriage”, but it is not bad by any means.  We have our arguments and quarrels just like all couples, so we want to be able to share these things, so when people read this, who may be facing the same things, will know that they are not alone.  We want to be open and honest with you about  things that we have been through. Things that have pushed us apart, but mostly the things that have brought us closer.

Just a little bit of background. Ron and I started dating in high school.  We were married our sophomore year of college. We have been married almost 6 years.  And here we are now.  Through the past 6 years, our sex life has been like a roller coaster.  We started out wanting to be with each other every night, like most newly wed couples do.  Ever since then, it comes in spurts. Every few months we will go back to that time and just really want to spend that quality, intimate time with each other for about a week straight.  I know that hormones, children, work schedules, and lack of time are all factors that contribute to the way things roll and how we end up at night.  They can each affect our moods, the way we feel, and how tired we are.  All of this can definitely put a strain on a sex life.

As we continue to share stories and experiences with you, we are looking forward to hearing your side of things also. Thank you for taking the time to check us out.  We are really excited about where this is going and how we are going to be able to contribute to helping couples get through tough times and make it to the great times.